Recently, I found the transformative power of daily affirmations. Of course, I had been hearing about how great affirmations are and how they have the power to change your life, but not quite realizing the power of thoughts and words yet, I shrugged it off as woo woo. You know, that new age stuff that folks are all into nowadays. Unbeknownst to me, affirmations–positive thoughts and words–are not new at all. I mean, this stuff goes way back, like biblical back. There are a ton of scriptures that support affirmations, but the one that always sticks out to me is, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”
When you really sit down and think about how much of your life is guided by your own thoughts and words, it’s quite shocking. Confidence, self-esteem, goals or lack thereof, all stem from what we think and say about ourselves. Cognitive behavioral therapy is rooted in the belief that addressing, and then reframing, maladaptive thinking can lead to behavioral changes. This stuff is everywhere.
So what does any of this have to do with kids and confidence? Well, everything. As Jam gets older and is exposed to more and more, I’m starting to notice a few things that concern me. There seems to be some self-deprecating comments happening and I don’t like it. And then there are the numerous instances of giving up if things don’t go perfectly or the automatic assumption that she can’t do something or that she’s not smart enough, thin enough, tall enough, funny enough, etc. This is a slippery slope, in my opinion, and I’d rather nip it in the bud now than have to deal with it later. Since positive, daily affirmations have helped me so much, I thought it would be a great idea to get Jam involved. Here are a few of the daily affirmations we’ve started saying.
- It’s okay if I don’t fit in because I was born to stand out.
- I am strong and I am brave.
- I am loved.
- I am a great friend.
- I like me because I’m awesome!
- Everyday, I get better and better.
- I make mistakes and that’s okay.
- I always do my best.
- I am unique and I am special.
- I am creative.
- I have the ability to solve problems.
- I can express my thoughts and feelings openly.
- My parents and friends love me.
- I can learn and will ask questions when I need help.
- I take care of my body so that it can take care of me.
- I believe in my dreams.
- I can reach all of my goals.
- I can do a lot of great things.
- I am beautiful.
- I love and accept myself.
Can you imagine hearing your child or children say those things and believe them? I can attest to the fact that it’s a wonderful, I-may-get-this-parenting-thing-down-yet, feeling. I’m already noticing a boost in Jam’s thoughts about herself and we’ve only been doing this for a few days. My hope is that this becomes a lifelong practice for her, or at least a coping mechanism for when she’s feeling out of wack.
Does your child say daily affirmations? List your favorites in the comments below!