30 Things

Since I’m always down for a little introspection and reflection, I decided to jump on the “30 Things My Kid(s) Should Know About Me” bandwagon.  Yeah, go ahead and click because homegirls’ site is off the chain. #ThatIsAll

Wait, no it’s not.

Allow me to give you a few reasons, other than my inability to ignore pretty graphics, as to why I’ve decided to join this challenge.

  1. There are some things that I will never get around to telling my daughter because I won’t think about them unless she asks.
  2. I want her to know me as a person and not just as “mommy.”  Even at 25, I find that learning about my mom as person…an actual human being with thoughts, feelings, passions, dreams…is fascinating.  I mean, who knew my mom was a real person?? News to me…
  3. I express much more in written form, than I ever have or will verbally.  She will learn about this a little more when she gets older and begins to find little love notes in her sock drawer.
  4. I think it’s cool and will give me something to write about that is outside of my comfort zone.  Read: Jordyn, you MUST get out of your comfort zone to really live.  Remember, there is no growth inside your comfort zone.  Also remember to always wear clean underwear in case you’re in an accident and they have to remove your clothes.

So, I’m ready to get started and looking 29 weeks ahead, I should be finishing up sometime around November.  Woot! Woot!  Let’s do this.

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I’ve been out of school for 4 months and 10 days…and I’m going stir crazy.  I miss learning.  I miss engaging.  I miss being motivated.  I miss school.

I.Miss.School.

Somebody better shut the front door…

I can’t believe it.  I begged, pleaded and prayed to get out of college.  I was just so over it.  Just over the work, over the people, over the ridiculous busy work and over being tired, worn out and pulled in too many different directions.  Now, here I am, not even five months later, bored to tears and ready to head back into the classroom.  It’s like I’m going through withdrawals or something.  Like Pookie from New Jack City. “It just be callin’ me, man.” School, that is.  I mean, I just want to learn.  I want to be around like-minded folks who value knowledge and education…because I miss it.  I really do. 

Learning is growth

I guess it’s no surprise that even though I said I wasn’t sure if I wanted to go to grad school or not, I’m taking the necessary steps to get the ball rolling.  Ugh, I see a PhD in my future. #CantStopWontStop

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I know, I know.  Those words are pretty harsh.  And anybody in their right mind would probably take offense to being spoken to that way.  So if that is the case, please tell me why on earth a parent would say those words (or worse) to their child?  Anybody?  Nobody?  Hmm…

I have seen and heard parents, especially mothers for some reason, say some terrible things to their children.  Once when I was at a McDonald’s in New Orleans,  I saw a mother, her son and her friend come in and grab a table.  I didn’t think anything of it, until I heard the mom say, “You better sit yo little ugly *blank* down before I knock the *blank* out of you.”

Say what?!

I had to look up from my Double Cheeseburger add Mac Sauce to see what was really going on.  Did she really just say that, all loud and proud like it’s okay?  Even sadder, though, was the little boy’s reaction, or should I say…lack thereof.  He just sat there, unfazed, continuing to do what he was doing.  It was heartbreaking because it told me that he was used to his mother’s behavior and it didn’t bother him.

But it bothered me.

I sat there, silently seething over what this mother had just done.  How dare she speak to him like that?  Wtf is wrong with this chick?  Why didn’t her friend say something? Hell, why didn’t I say something? 

 And this is where the cognitive dissonance set in. (What can I say? I was a psych major.)  While I know it’s wrong to speak to a child like that, I also understand that that was not my child.  Heck, I didn’t even have a child at the time!  So what could I tell this woman about raising her son?  I concluded—nothing, hoping someone else would eventually tell this mother that her words were harmful to her young, impressionable son.  I wanted someone else to act, say something, so I could say nothing.  Classic Bystander Effect and Social Psych 101, ftw!

 But seriously speaking, what does one do when faced with this situation?  Talk to the mother? “Ma’am, please shut the *blank* up and stop talking to your son that way.”  Or appeal to her maternal side?  “Ma’am, you know, it can really screw your child up when you talk to him like that.  Have you seen the show, Criminal Minds?”

It’s just such a fine line that we all must walk.  To speak up or not to speak up?  To walk away from the situation or to walk toward the situation?  My gut tells me to go forward, fight the good fight and stand up for the tiny humans.  My realist mind, however, says, “Shut up, cuss the mama out in your head and keep it moving because you don’t want to be Hugo Alfredo Tale-Yax.”  I’m just saying…

How do you feel when you see a parent disrespecting their child i.e. calling them names, making fun of them, etc.?  Have you ever intervened?  What was the result?

If you’ve taken a peak at my 25 Before 26 list, you’ve seen that one of my goals before turning 26 is to attend a blog conference.  While the thought of networking and mingling with big name bloggers and brands makes my mouth go dry, it’s one of the most important things on my list.  I mean, my goal is to build a brand here, people.  Come on!  So, imagine my surprise when I found out about an online blogging conference that I could attend from the comfort of my own bed desk.  Whhhaaa, you say?  Yes, an ONLINE conference, The Blog Workshop.

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 What This Means For You

  • No hotel reservations
  • No travel arrangements
  • No baby-sitting costs
  • No time off work
  • No spiky heels because you think you gotta look cu-ute (Can’t nobody see you through that computer screen, girl!)
  • No hassle

Overall, it’s pretty easy to see that overall, this conference mean less money out of your pocket.  Instead of paying $200/night for hotel accommodations, $400+ for round trip airfare, plus $175 for the conference registration fee, you can just pay $175 $150 (because you’re a MWAL reader and can use the code “TBW25HURRY” to save $25) and be on your merry way.  Woot! Woot!

With an awesome agenda, knowledgeable speakers and great giveaways (like video blogging equipment and LLC packages from LegalZoom), this conference is guaranteed to be a hit.  Ticket sales end Friday, May 10th with the conference going on from May 17ththrough May 19th.  Oh and I saved the best for last: You don’t even have to take off work!  No ma’am/sir, the conference starts after work, at around 5pm, so you get to save those PTO and vacation days.  Don’t believe that you can go to work and attend an awesome conference?  Take a look at the schedule:

Conference Agenda Chart See, told ya!

So stop procrastinating and make this happen.  Register HERE, get your questions answered HERE and I’ll “see” you there!

Check out this Youtube video for more info on the conference and don’t forget to use the discount code above to save some money!

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I was compensated for this post in the form of free entry into The Blog Workshop and if you use the registration link above, I will also be compensated in the form of payment… just so you know.  The opinions expressed are my own and were not influenced in any way.