17 Ways to Be Your Own Valentine


I’ve never celebrated Valentine’s Day for myself.  I never really understood the whole “be your own valentine” thing because I had nil understanding of self-care.  My thought process was that Valentine’s Day meant celebrating someone else. Or having someone else celebrate me.  It was a day to show love and give gifts…to someone else.  But what about showing love and giving gifts to yourself?  With this new found commitment to my self-care and on putting myself first, this Valentine’s Day–in addition to celebrating my husband–I’m also celebrating me.

I kick ass on a regular basis.  

My confidence is growing and every day, I’m leaning more and more into who I am. This is the time (but not the only time) to show myself some love. And I know I’m not the only one.


We should all be celebrating ourselves regularly.  Valentine’s Day, however, gives us an opportunity to take it up a notch.

Here are a 17 ways to be your own valentine and show yourself some love.

  • Take yourself out to dinner
  • Get a massage
  • Disconnect from social media, email, and turn your phone off
  • Buy yourself some flowers
  • Take a long, hot bath
  • Remove negative people from your life
  • Invest in something that makes you happy or something that you need


  • Prepare your favorite meal.  Don’t feel the need to accommodate those who don’t like it.
  • Take a “mental health day” from work
  • Sleep
  • Set your phone alarm to say something makes you want to rise and shine.  For example, when my alarm goes off every morning it says, “Wake up and be awesome!”
  • Wake up naturally, with no alarm clock
  • Listen to your favorite song over and over
  • Do something that involves giving back
  • Write a letter to someone who has made your life better and tell them why. You don’t have to send this letter, but the benefits of writing and showing gratitude are vast.
  • Read for pleasure
  • Pay attention to how people, places, things, and situations make you feel

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