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I believe mental funks definitely have their place and are necessary for growth. So, I'll see you on the other side.

Right now I’m in the thick of something funky. I mean, it stinks to the high heavens up in here and there’s nothing I can do about it–but go through it, feel it, and learn from it.

I’ve been in this place for a few months now. If you haven’t noticed, things have slowed down a bit on the blog. In real life, my family and friends ask questions like, “Are you sure you’re okay? You know you can talk to me, right?” I do, but I won’t. Their concern is appreciated, but in a way, it’s misplaced. I’m okay. I am. I’m okay.

I have to make the best of where I am

Am I feeling the best that I’ve ever felt in my life? Absolutely not. Are there some days that I just wish for this all to be over? Absolutely, there are. Do I believe deep down that I have to go through this to come out better than I went in? There’s not a doubt in my mind. Before I really sat down and thought about how I was going to address this and how to best describe what I’m going through, I toyed around with the idea of a “how to get out of a mental funk” type post. But how can I advise someone on something I’ve haven’t done myself? That seems pretty imperious and inauthentic. “Here, do what I can’t do and even though it didn’t work for me, maybe it’ll work for you.” Nah. That’s not how I roll. What I can do though–genuinely and without hesitation–is share how I’m making the best of my mental funk. View Post

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Parks and Recreation is one of my favorite shows.  And while Leslie Knope and Ron Swanson are neck and neck as being my favorite characters, Donna and Tom Haverford are close seconds.  Those two…are a mess.  But well put together, happy messes, if you ask me.  And I like that.  I wanna be like that–a well put together, happy mess.

I need to treat myself!  Or as I see it, enrich my life.

One thing that I admire about Tom and Donna besides their willingness to just be who they are, is their … self love.  Can we just admit that the two are just a little bit self-obsessed?  And now can we all admit that we kinda, secretly love it?  During the episode where the phrase “treat yo self” was coined, I sat there thinking, “Why don’t we all just treat ourselves on the daily?  Like, wouldn’t that make life just a little less shitty?”

So I decided to treat myself.  Or enrich my life.

I joined a few young professional groups in the area.

I started walking and drinking more water and eating less fat.

I cleaned, organized and decorated my apartment, now my home.

I gave myself permission to feel however it is that I’m feeling and come out better on the other side.

I gave up trying to make my daughter into who I wanted to be her to be.

I opened myself up and let a few people in.

I let go of the scarcity mindset and made my money work for me.

I stopped letting fear dictate my actions and inactions and started living by my desires and needs.

I became less selfish and more selfish all at once.

I know yall are thinking, “You did all that in a few weeks?”  And I have to be honest and say that I haven’t.  I wrote this list to figure out what I needed to do to “treat myself.”  What I needed in order to be the best version of me.  Now that I have it, I’m ready to roll.

Welcome to the Treat Myself Series.

What do you need to do to treat yo self?

 

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I’ve never celebrated Valentine’s Day for myself.  I never really understood the whole “be your own valentine” thing because I had nil understanding of self-care.  My thought process was that Valentine’s Day meant celebrating someone else. Or having someone else celebrate me.  It was a day to show love and give gifts…to someone else.  But what about showing love and giving gifts to yourself?  With this new found commitment to my self-care and on putting myself first, this Valentine’s Day–in addition to celebrating my husband–I’m also celebrating me.

I kick ass on a regular basis.  

My confidence is growing and every day, I’m leaning more and more into who I am. This is the time (but not the only time) to show myself some love. And I know I’m not the only one.

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We should all be celebrating ourselves regularly.  Valentine’s Day, however, gives us an opportunity to take it up a notch.

Here are a 17 ways to be your own valentine and show yourself some love.

  • Take yourself out to dinner
  • Get a massage
  • Disconnect from social media, email, and turn your phone off
  • Buy yourself some flowers
  • Take a long, hot bath
  • Remove negative people from your life
  • Invest in something that makes you happy or something that you need

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  • Prepare your favorite meal.  Don’t feel the need to accommodate those who don’t like it.
  • Take a “mental health day” from work
  • Sleep
  • Set your phone alarm to say something makes you want to rise and shine.  For example, when my alarm goes off every morning it says, “Wake up and be awesome!”
  • Wake up naturally, with no alarm clock
  • Listen to your favorite song over and over
  • Do something that involves giving back
  • Write a letter to someone who has made your life better and tell them why. You don’t have to send this letter, but the benefits of writing and showing gratitude are vast.
  • Read for pleasure
  • Pay attention to how people, places, things, and situations make you feel

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If you’ve been around the blog for a while, you know that I tend to talk about my cars from time to time.  Between the two of them, they’ve gotten me through some tough stuff.  I love my babies–Cali and Bonnie–and because of that, I try to do my best when it comes to taking care of them.  But truth be told, most of the time I suck at this.  Like recently, when I happened to glance up at the sticker on my windshield and found out that it had been over 5 months since Cali’s last oil change.  That, and the fact that I’d driven more than 1000 miles over her last oil change limit, had me feeling like I was neglecting my baby.  Not to mention the atrocity that was her inside.  Yuck.  Moms, you know what I’m talking about.  My backseat is forever the place of no return.

Now, I don’t know about you, but clutter, dirtiness, and disorder disrupt my zen like nothing else.  When my home or car is cluttered, so is my mind and so are my emotions.  I can’t deal!!  So, in an attempt to save myself (and my family) from myself, I contacted my local Walmart’s Automotive Care Center to schedule an oil change.

Once I was all scheduled, and before leaving Cali in the (I’m sure) capable hands of the attendant, I specified that I needed Pennzoil High Mileage Vehicle oil (for cars with over 75,000 miles) because well, Cali is on the road A LOT.  My road trip baby, she and I will hit the road at the drop of a dime.  So I have to make sure that she’s always road ready.  This means that the oil she gets completely protects her engine, cleans out the sludge from lesser oils, and provides enough lubrication to protect from metal on metal friction.  Plus, it needs to allow me to drive a little bit longer, like 550 miles longer…because I’m never on time with these maintenance things.  And you guessed it…Pennzoil does all of that.  So yeah…Pennzoil it was.

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The good thing about having your car serviced at Walmart is the fact that you can get so much done at one time.  While my car was being pampered, I decided that I would pamper myself and get a pedicure.  Kudos to the Walmarts with nail salons!  While the technician slathered lotion and massaged my feet, before painting them Easter purple, I had time to think.  Even with Pennzoil’s High Mileage Vehicle oil, which is designed for high mileage vehicles, I needed to do more to keep my car in good running condition.  Under the hood, that meant regular (and on-time) oil changes, but inside the car, it meant keeping it clean…even with a sticky-handed 6 year-old in it.  So while getting my feet worked on, I made a list of a few things I could do to keep my car clean.

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A Busy Mom’s Tips/Tricks/Hacks for Keeping Your Car Clean

  1. Keep a small bag or container in your car for trash
  2. Consider a glove box organizer for your insurance card, registration, and other important paperwork
  3. When pumping gas or going through the drive thru at fast food joints, use that as a time to get rid of any loose trash like receipts, wrappers, or cups.
  4. If you have to sit in the “after school pick up line” like I do on some days, use that time to wipe down the dashboard, steering wheel, cup holders, radio deck, etc.
  5. Institute an “in with you, out with you” rule.  If you bring it in the car, you’re responsible for taking it out.  No more toys, books, or basketball shoes left in my car.  I’m looking at you, Hubz.
  6. Keep it organized.

Keeping my car organized is, by far, the most difficult thing on this list for me.  That’s especially the case for my trunk since I drive a hatchback.  But I’m working on it and right now, it’s looking good.

Now, my car is clean,  has some fresh oil running through it, and is organized.  And I got a pedicure.  Sanity saved.

Wanna save your sanity?  Check out this free printable with clean car tips for busy moms. Don’t forget to pin it!

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This year I’ve decided to jump back into reading and I’m taking the Goodreads Reading Challenge.  For the last couple of years, I’ve struggled to read like I used to when I was younger. Back in the day, I read a book a day.  Or a day and a half, if it was kind of long.  Nowadays, I’m lucky to get through a book in a few months.  With everything that I’ve got going on and other just random stuff, I’ve lost the ability to focus.  Adult ADHD is a thing, people.  Since I like to read, that’s a big problem for me.  Like a huge problem.  So this year, I set a goal to read 100 books by the year’s end.  Not 5, not 50, but 100 books.  I’m using Goodreads (feel free to click the link so we can be friends) to track my progress and to figure out what to read next.  Check out the video below for more info on the challenge, how I’m doing it and what I plan to read for January!

How many books are you planning to read this year?  Do you use Goodreads? Are you taking the Goodreads Reading Challenge?