April Goals

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Guess what! I’m here with my April goals post. Y’all, I haven’t done a goals post in a long time. Like a really, really long time. Honestly, it’s because of a lot of reasons. Mostly, I got tired of sharing goals that I wouldn’t or couldn’t accomplish. My processes were too cumbersome and I didn’t care enough to complete most things. Depression and anxiety can be debilitating, and with each month that went by with unfinished or in some cases, untouched goals, it was another blow to my self-esteem.

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February Goals & How I’m Keeping Track of it all

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Well, it’s February and I didn’t even share my January goals. We can just count January as a trial month, right? I was preparing for February and therefore didn’t get anything done in January.

We can go with that, right?  Yeah, that sounds good enough.

Real talk, though. I just needed to do better. I had some not so nice things happen in my life in January which could have put a damper on the rest of the year. Yes, year, and I’m not exaggerating. I spent the mid to last part of January in kind of a daze thinking about all the things that could go wrong from this ONE THING going wrong. Ugh, it was terrible. But in the end, it all worked out…in my favor. I’m so thankful for that.

See, when things go bad or even look like they’re going to go bad, I get worried. And I start to question every plan, every goal, everything that I’ve set forth. It’s the nature of anxiety. Slowly (very slowly) I’m learning to keep going, even when things are dim, because 9 times out of 10, I’ll come out exactly where I need to be. Where I’m supposed to be.

That was January–the freaking start of the year–and I’ve already gotten a lesson and gut check. I’m sure it’s in preparation for everything else that 2016 will bring, so I welcome it. I’m learning from it and I’m thankful for it.

See, I told you that January was for preparation.

February goals, but first coffee 2016 planning

I’m planning to share my 2016 goals and possibly my vision board later in the month or next month. I’ll also share my process for visual goal setting and how this has helped me actually make progress on the things I’m accomplishing this year. <~See what I did there? “Things I’m accomplishing,” not trying to accomplish, hoping to accomplish, praying that I accomplish, or anything like that. I am accomplishing shit this year. I am. 

Now on to February Goals

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How to Plan for a New Year : Tools, Books and Other Resources

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This post may contain affiliate links. All opinions are my own.

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Yay!  2015 is here and I’m in full planning mode.  Thinking of how to plan for a new year can be daunting, but it’s also quite invigorating! Last year, I didn’t plan extensively, or much at all to be honest.  My progress (or lack thereof) is evidence of that.  While there were definitely some highlights in 2014, overall it was a slow year.  This year, though, I’ve been been researching and creating my plan to make 2015 one of my best years yet.  I won’t go too much into the goals that I’ve set for this year since that’s not what this post is about.  Instead, I’ll share a few of the tools, books and other resources that I’m using to plan.  Hopefully, if you’re like I was (suffering from analysis paralysis), these few things will help you out.

Books

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[amazon text=Think and Grow Rich&asin=B001NGN2D2] by Napoleon Hill

[amazon text=Write It Down Make It Happen: Knowing What You Want and Getting It&asin=B000FC0X1O] by Henriette Anne Kauser

[amazon text=The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide to Creating Success on Your Own Terms&asin=B005EM8NHQ] by Danielle LaPorte

[amazon text=The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul&asin=B00H7MKSRY] by Danielle LaPorte

 

Tools (worksheets + workbooks)

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Unraveling the Year Ahead (2015) by Susannah Conway

The 2015 New Year Guide by Julien Gordon

How to create a goals binder by Single Mom Income

Brainstorming sheets by The Happier Homemaker

 

Other resources (blog posts + videos + calendars)

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How to Create Your Annual 2015 Plan by Ishita Gupta

Happy (Almost) New Year by BronzeGoddess01

Free 2015 Printable Calendar by Just a Girl and Her Blog

6 Best Goal-tracking Apps by Ben Popken

 What are you using to plan for a new year? Are you excited for what’s to come?

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2014 Year in Review

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The year has finally come to an end.  Well, in a day or so, it will.  And I must say, I’m super excited…and ready for it to be over. 2014, for me, was a year for the books.  Lots of changes. Lots of heartache. Lots of fear. But also, lots to be thankful for.  Like most years before, I had to sit down and really analyze everything that happened to me/my family and for me/my family, during this year.  And wow! Just wow.  Almost everything that I did this year, was based on my vision for 2014.  My vision board, which I created at the beginning of the year, served as my guide in making decisions throughout.  When I strayed away from my vision, it showed in the results.  As long as I kept that vision at the forefront of my mind in everything that I did, though, I felt that I was making progress.  Here’s what I mean:

Mommy Works a Lot’s 2014 Year in Review

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My 2014 Vision Board

Motherhood/Family

One of my major goals for 2014 was to strengthen my relationship with Jam.  Because of everything that transpired during and after my pregnancy with her, we’ve never really bonded like many other mothers and daughters.  And that scares me.  I wanted to do something about it, instead of sitting back and hoping that the problem corrected itself.  We:

  • Hit the road several times this year and visited places like Sea Life and Legoland.  We also headed the opposite direction and visited Como Park for the first time.
  • We saw some live productions and I found out that my daughter is definitely her mother’s child when it comes to musicals and such.  We love them and were blessed to see The Rockettes in action, along with a live performances of Sid the Science Kid, Sister Act, and a few others.

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In addition to going places,  this year, I feel like I really got to know my daughter and my tiny family, overall.

  • I figured out that, much like her mother, Jam is a moody child.  She’s super temperamental, but also that she’s fiercely her own person…and not a tiny “me.”
  • I learned that my husband and I have to have “us” time, or there’ll be no “us” in the end.
  • Lastly, I learned that there’s nary an issue that a good craft, a good laugh and hug can’t fix.  Plus, I got my cooking sea legs!

Work/Blogging

While I focused a lot of my year on building a bond with Jam, it’s not all I did.  As I’ve said before, I’m so much more than “just a mom.”  Meaning, I have goals, ambitions and fears that are totally unrelated to motherhood.  This year, I really wanted to push my limit and step outside of my comfort zone.  I wanted new experiences and to meet new people.  While I didn’t completely meet this goal, I did have a few great experiences related to it.

  • I attended my very first blog conference and got to meet some really cool bloggers IRL.  Bloggy Bootcamp was amazing and eased some of my fears of taking the blog offline.
  • I attended my first have-to-take-a-plane conference, even though I drove.  At Blogalicious, my entire world opened up and I saw what blogging could bring.  I came back inspired and with the connections to turn that inspiration into action.

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  • I left my job and then left my new job.  That transition was, and has continued to be, tough.  Going from something that you’ve always done and have invested in, to something that you thought you loved, but are really just “in like,” can be nerve-racking.

Me/Self-Care

Lastly, I wanted to use 2014 to learn about myself and how to best take care of myself.  With this depression thing, I find myself going in and out of knowing the real me and the imposter me.  I wanted to create the foundation for self-love and self-compassion through my actions and mindset.  It had become clear to me that I wouldn’t be able to accomplish any of the things I’d set out to do, if I didn’t change my thoughts and take care of myself.

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 2014 was here and now it’s gone.  And I’m ecstatic about that.  2015 will undoubtedly bring it’s own set of challenges and I’m okay with that because I know that the good stuff is coming as well.  So long, 2014.

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Weekly Wishes #1

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I’m happy to announce that I’ve already crossed off one item from my November Goals list!  The day after writing that post, I went to the thrift store on a whim and racked. up.  I found 2 pair of pumps (Bandolino and Nine West), 4 shirts, 1 pair of pants and a pencil skirt for all for $26.  I kid you not!

Now that I’ve crossed something off the list, I’m feeling really ambitious.  I still haven’t quite figured out where that $550 is coming from for November, but I have faith that it will happen.  Ya girl is preparing herself for some blessings! Do you hear me tho?  So moving forward with a mindset of abundance and blessings, it’s only fitting that I de-clutter my life to make room for said abundance and blessings.  The Weekly Wishes for this week are:

  1. Go through and get rid of some clothes.  In the midst of doing this, I plan to find some things to sell on Ebay.
  2. Organize my desk so that I have some place to write. I have quite a few writing gigs coming up and I need to organize my time and my space.
  3. Follow up on connections made at Blogalicious
  4. Post one article to LinkedIn and update profile
  5. Get in the habit of putting the phone/laptop/Kindle/remote down in the evening

So that’s it!  And that’s enough for right now, right?  I honestly had to fight the urge to add even more, even though I’m already feeling a little overwhelmed with everything else I got going on.  Just trying to do my best to not get in over my head and at the same time stretch myself.  A bit of a balancing act, I see.

What things do you want to accomplish this week?

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Monthly Goals & Weekly Wishes

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It’s been quite some time since I did an actual, written post on my goals.  I was going to do it for October, then I forgot.  I’m sure I could say the same thing about September…and August.  It’s not that I didn’t find writing my goals down important anymore, it was more that I found myself not accomplishing them (for various reasons) and therefore, the practice just became kinda blah. Hence, it became unimportant to me and more of an afterthought, than an “I have to do.”  The thing is, though, I love these posts.  They’re the post that I can read over and over and over.  I NEVER get tired of reading other people’s goals.  They give me life.  And when I sit down and really listen to myself, my goals give me life…like they should.

Since my birthday was a couple of days ago, I thought that this would be the perfect time to re-commit to monthly goals and weekly action steps.  I plan to link up to Weekly Wishes over at The Nectar Collective.  That way, I can have some resemblance of accountability and actually get shit done.  I mean, the whole purpose of this blog, the reason that I started it, was to show a young, ambitious mom setting and reaching goals, thus building a community of ambitious moms doing the same.

So without further ado, here are my goals for the month of November.

Attend (and get a return on) Blogalicious I’ve been wanting to attend Blogalicious for as long as I’ve been blogging–likely even before I actually started.  I saw all my favorite bloggers attending this big, colorful conference and I wanted to be there.  I wanted to be a part of that community.  Fast forward 2 1/2 years and my wants, now needs, have changed.  While I still want to be a part of the community, now I also want to soak up all the knowledge that those 3 days can provide.  To be a better blogger, brand and businesswoman, is really what I want now. The schedule is jam packed with all these social media + blogging.  Brands, some of which I want to work with, will be in attendance.  So when I say “a return,” I mean that I want to go to the next level.  I’m ready for that.

Post four times to LinkedIn I’ve been aching to grow my LI presence for quite some time now.  It looks like I’ve been stuck with the same number of connections for forever and I can tell that LI is a platform that, when utilized correctly, can position you as an expert, thought leader or both.  Since I’m really trying to take my professional career to the next level, I need to make sure that I’m where the “action” is.  Plus, conquering LI will give me another topic to present to my students…and add to my portfolio.

Purge my wardrobe  Right now, my closet is a hot mess.  I have clothes everywhere and all around.  Many of the clothes, I no longer wear, but I keep them for “when I lose weight.” On the flip side of that, I have clothes that, even if I were skinny, I wouldn’t wear because they’re horrible.  They need to be done away with.

Add three basic pieces to my wardrobe  Along the same lines as #3, I need to build my professional wardrobe…and fast.  In my current office, and specifically in my department, professional dress is a must.  I hate to admit it, but on some days, my attire leaves much to be desired.  It’s not that it’s wrong, but it’s not right for me.  Or my body.  And as such, I’m not comfortable and it’s telling in my confidence or lack thereof.  I figure if I buy 3 solid, classic pieces a month, it won’t break my budget and it will help me build my wardrobe.

Get organized + be on time  This one is HUGE, as disorganization + tardiness go hand and hand for me.  It adds to my anxiety and depression and causes me to be angry at everybody around me.  Overall, it just makes my life a living hell.  The constant feeling that you’re behind or that you have to rush to catch up is overwhelming.  Plus, those bad habits are rubbing off on Jam, who has come to expect us to be late.  Ugh, I can’t have that.

Disconnect in the evenings  I spend the majority of the day staring at screens of some kind.  I then come home only to stare at more screens and half-assedly interact with my family.  It’s like I can’t even give them 3 full hours of my time, without having my head down in a screen.  They deserve better than that.  From the time I get off work, until Jam is in bed, there will be no screen time for me…unless it’s Thursday cuz you know…TGIT.  🙂

Celebrate my birthday and anniversary  As I mentioned earlier, my birthday was a couple of days ago.  And because I’m prepping for Blogalicious, doing this and doing that, plus the fact that my birthday is the day after our anniversary, we haven’t celebrated anything yet.  I’m hoping for a nice, lowkey celebration of both some time this month.

Add $550 in extra income  I’m not sure where this number came from, but that’s what my fingers typed.  Since I’ve been getting some sponsored opportunities, I’ve started to make a little money on this blog.  That’s always good, but I want to have multiple streams of income.  Right now, I’m trying to come up with various ways in which to make some extra cash.  I would like for the extra cash to be consistent, but I feel like I just need to start something to get to that point.  I’ve been toying around with getting another job, but I’d really like to do something passively or that doesn’t dictate that I be some place at a certain time for a certain amount of hours.  I’m spoiled like that.

So those are November’s goals.  As I said, I plan to use Weekly Wishes as action steps to accomplish them.  Every week, I’ll build on my successes, evaluate my failures and re-position for more success.

How do you create and accomplish goals? What are your goals for November?

 

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