It has taken me a long time to accept the hair that naturally grows out of my scalp. It’s not silky or straight, fine or curly, but kinky and coily. It’s not mainstream hair by any means and to be honest, I had to teach myself to love it. Similar to the skin I’m in, society doesn’t tell me it’s beautiful. Hell, half of the time, those closest to me won’t tell me it’s beautiful. My mass of cottony coils are beautiful, though. Just as my daughter’s. Just as her (future) daughter’s. Just as yours. Unlike most women who transitioned to natural, I never had a bad relationship with my natural hair. I really didn’t have any feelings toward it, simply because I didn’t know it. I hadn’t been exposed to it. As a girl who started getting relaxers at 5, I never knew my hair in its natural state. So I did what I knew and I knew relaxers.
It wasn’t until I was a senior in high school, did I realize that some people rocked what naturally grew out of their scalps. Say what?! As a frequenter of Black Hair Media, when I found the ‘Natural Hair Section’ there was no turning back. I saw the beauty and flexibility of natural hair. I saw what could be on my head, if I only allowed it to be. I was sold. Those closest to me were not. “You don’t know what your hair will look like without a relaxer.” “Your hair is nappy and is not going to be like those women on the screen.” “Your texture is not their texture.” I decided that natural was not for me and relegated myself to relaxers, abandoning my natural hair dreams. The dreams, however, refused to be banished and I found myself in the company of excellent sources of inspiration on BHM, Nappturality and YouTube. I quietly made the decision to transition then BC (big chop). After transitioning for 8 months, I’d had enough. Dealing with two (three) textures were working my nerves. I picked up the scissors and *snip*. “Oh shit, what did I do?” Those were the first words to escape my lips. I walked out of the bathroom and into the bedroom, looking for encouragement. What I found, however, was, “Oh shit, what did you do?” To make a long story short, thank God for boyfriends who are skilled with scissors. Toon hooked me up that night and I haven’t looked back since.
Now, none of this is to say that I adore my hair all the time and that I am always in love with it. Umm, no ma’am. This hair and I have gone through some things and while I don’t see myself returning to relaxers anytime soon, there is definitely a love hate thing (cue Wale) happening from time to time. I don’t baby it as much as I should, I don’t style it hardly ever and I sleep without a satin scarf more often than not. That being said, my natural hair is definitely a part of my identity and my natural hair story is undoubtedly a piece of my story.
So in the true style of the celebratory fashion in which I like to live, I’m giving away some products. Throws confetti and twirls:::
Here is what I’m giving away!
(1) Dream Kids Olive Miracle Soothing Moisturizing Braid Spray
(2) Dream Kids Olive Miracle Anti-Breakage Detangling Oil Moisturizer
(3) Dream Kids Olive Miracle Detangling Moisturizing Shampoo
(4) Dream Kids Olive Oil Miracle Detangling Conditioner
(1) Olive Miracle 2-in-1 Shampoo and Conditioner
Leave a comment telling me about your hair story–natural or not–and tweet me on Twitter, telling me that you’ve done so. Use the Rafflecopter below to make it super easy (there are a couple other options for entries as well). And that’s it! The giveaway will run until October 19th, with the winner being announced on Monday, October 21st and will have 24 hours to respond.
I was not paid to do this post; no compensation has been given. Products have been shipped to me for review and giveaway purposes.